This past weekend was really great. I had some free time to sit back and do some things that I wanted to do. I did all my homework on Friday night like a Super-Nerd, played the drums for a little more than four hours on Saturday, and also got to jam with Billy and James on Sunday (check out the post about that too).
But today was sort of a slap in the face. I realized that Tuesday is:
1. Choraliers Gig – We’re singing at the middle school over lunchtime. Mr Doole enjoys throwing stuff on us sort of last minute, but I guess I should have practiced some this weekend…
2. Meeting for 8th Grade Orientation – On Wednesday, a bunch of 8th graders are coming to hang out at the high school or something, I and volunteered for it. We have a meeting with school administration tomorrow morning figuring it all out.
3. Talent show tryouts – I’ll be trying out with my solo stuff tomorrow (Billy and James and I will be on Wednesday or Thursday). Today I realized I should have practiced my solo more after jamming with James and Billy, but alas, I was taking advantage of my seemingly “easy, laid-back, and stress-free” weekend way too much.
I also realized that the rest of my week will include three tests and a lot of makeup work.
Regardless here comes my main point. What does the title have to do with my story thus-far? Well, I turned out to be in a not-the-greatest mood today. With that mood comes a ton of complaining. I’m guessing no one really heard me, because I wasn’t vocalizing it, but I sure heard a lot of it from all those people suffering from the wretched “Monday Blues.” I’m not pointing any fingers in particular at all, but every Monday I seem to get the vibe from everyone “Ugh I’m tired” “Ugh I didn’t do my homework” “Ugh etc.” It bugs me (but I won’t complain haha)…does it bug you?
So what good does complaining do? Should we complain when we probably can’t change the situation? Should we complain when can’t change ourselves to be better or feel better?
The obvious answer is “No, but it sure feels good to do it.” It feels really good to talk about your frustrations, complain to your teachers, and complain to your friends, because humans generally want to be felt sorry for. Maybe I’m wrong on this (this is where your comments come into play), but I find myself *subconsciously* wanting to be felt sorry for. And I want to change that. I want to eliminate my complaints completely because I’m realizing there is no use for them and they are probably just terrible annoying to those around me. Unsuccessful complaining (perhaps about too much homework) is a waste of time and energy, and yields no results. HEY, it probably even puts you and others in bad moods. Boy! That sounds fun!
Thanks for reading today’s sermon. ha, Comment me and have a good day!
LOL. You know I thought the same thing over the weekend and yet I caught myself in the same situation today several times, including in Trig and many other times in the hallway and in passing and what not…
I think you’re mostly right a bout all of that stuff…. meh, what can I say, I’m pathetic… no really… anyway…
BTW: I like the myspace-baby picture… I saw that one today… I was like “NO WAY!”
“I want to be felt sorry for”- I don’t think that’s quite it. I think it’s a need/desire for attention, and complaining/being felt sorry for is one way to get it. And I think the need or want of attention stems at least partly from the basic human need of acceptance. Sometimes I get annoyed by complainers, but I know I complain too. And I always try to remember that I am in no position to get annoyed- I don’t know what they’re going through in their life right now, and maybe they really do need to complain just to vent or maybe they really need attention or acceptance. And if not, oh well. I didn’t let external influences control my attitude. Several of my good friends do a whole lot of complaining, and I find that that’s one way to get to know a person- if they’re whining about something, it’s an opportunity to listen and show you care about what goes on in their life, not matter how petty it may be- it’s an opportunity to share their burdens (which is always nice to have someone to do) even when they aren’t all that burdensome. Complaining will only be annoying or problematic if we let it. I’ll leave my response at that for now. Hurray for long windedness!
Happy Tuesday evening everyone!
I complain not to annoy people or just dwell on the situation, I complain to let other people know how I feel. Not that I lack the ability to control my emotions, just that I like to tell people what annoys me. I don’t complain to be felt sorry for, I complain to let people know how I feel.
Kodi, may I ask you to take your answer further? I’m wondering why you want people to know how you feel…
Heather- I’m wondering why you’re asking such a question.
Why not want other people to know your feelings?
I’m asking because I want to know what the answer is, if there is one. And yeah, the question goes both ways. I can’t think right now. I might comment back later- my sister has an ear infection and she’s whining and moaning about it, and I can’t think with her noise. Argh.
PS- hurray for answering questions with questions! (even if that doesn’t apply here)
Heather, sorry I’m late. It’s not for any real reason, I just like to talk to other people about stuff in my life that annoys me. Wanting to tell other people how I feel had know real meaning to it it just meant that I like to talk to other people about my life.